So Al and I have spent several Christmases together but this will be our first Christmas together as a married couple.
When we got married our friend Joel got us these sweet little frog ornaments that are a bride and groom.
I could not wait to put them on the tree.
Our poor tree is a little tipsy. Every time I try to move it, or just because it feels like it, it starts to lean.
The other day I noticed that our frog bride has shifted as well.
This is what she is now doing:
Tonight it made me think of how the way we see the people we love can shift. When you first meet your "person" it's almost like they can do no wrong. You've got love blinders on. "Oh he smacks when he chews his food... isn't that cute?" But years later it can turn into homicidal thoughts. "Can't he close his mouth?" :)
I've been reading this great book called "Love & War." One of the points that they make several times is that we can chose what we react to in our marriage. So he can't seem to get his socks in the hamper. So she can't seem to wipe the toothpaste out of the sink. These are only big issues if we make them big issues.
If we are in this together, if we are in this for life, then we will not major on the minor things in any of our relationships.
As for me, I hope I always remember to gaze at my man with love in my eyes. He's a stud. I know realistically that there will be times when that is more of a choice than a feeling.
So when that happens I want to make sure that I remember the right choice.
PS - thanks so much for those of you who have been praying for a job for me. I have one in the pipes now that I should start next week. Keep praying for my brother, Gem, and so many others who need to find that same thing.